3. Inner Harmony: Unifying the Male and Female Selves

Express your Soul Light. Blend your inner masculine and feminine qualities to achieve spiritual mastery and be a light unto the world.

Androgynous Consciousness

As Male and Female Selves evolve, they have the opportunity of joining in producing whole, complete, androgynous consciousness, therefore replicating the vibratory conditions of the Soul who created them.  When that takes place, the personality undergoes a series of rapid transformations which produces benefit not only for the personality and its Soul, but for the Planetary Being.  In that state of coherence, the personality is able to transfer to the (mental, emotional, etheric and physical) bodies of the Planetary Being a stimulating radiance which uplifts the substance of those bodies into a higher state of expression.  Thus, the Souls embodying in Earth assist in the evolution of the Planetary Being.

Moving Beyond Selfishness

The Male and Female Selves are primarily challenged with moving beyond their own selfish wants to understand their needs and each other’s needs.  As you observe your own lifetimes, at this stage of humanity’s evolution, you may consider how each of you, as Outer Selves, face the meeting of your own selfish wants and how you sometimes displace them in favor of meeting your needs or the needs of others.  This important step in evolution requires a series of insights for you as Outer Selves.  Consider how those insights occur within your Subconscious Mind in your Male and Female Selves.

Male Self – Lessons of Power and Love

Your Male Self has spent most of his physical embodiments learning the lessons of power and has been led to use his power increasingly with the motive of Love.  He learns, each time, that out of Love he acts to assist himself or others.  He builds important awarenesses and skills that assist him in relating more closely to the Female Self.

Female Self – Lessons of Love

The Female Self teaches him many practical lessons about the value of Love. Usually, the Female Self is the one who teaches the Male Self the wisdom of acting in Love as opposed to acting in fear.  Her acts of compassion, caring, and sometimes self-sacrifice for the benefit of others, convey the importance of Love as a motive to the Male Self.  Many dynamics of Basic Self interactions in humanity at this time are focused on that set of lessons.

Lessons of Male Dominated Society

Historically, five thousand years of male-dominated society has produced conditions that have given Male Selves opportunity to explore the use of power with many motives, ultimately leading them to the motive of Love.  Female Selves, during this time, have been forced by the dominance of males to engage in the use of power, which they at first avoid.  Through a series of experiences of victimization, then becoming victimizers in turn, Female Selves learn the value of using power.  The Male Selves teach them many of these lessons.

Caring for Bodies and Chakras Together

As Male and Female Selves grow more unified, the High Self gives them joint assignments in caring for the health of the various bodies and the chakra system.  In this process, they learn how to work together in many specific instances.

Love and Fear in the Solar Plexus Chakra

For example, if the Male Self is inclined to use power with the motive of fear, the solar plexus chakra will be affected.  The Male Self will tend to seize control of that chakra in order that he may defend, attack or flee, depending upon his choice motivated by fear.

The Female Self, who has been given equal responsibility for the care of that chakra, may be temporarily pushed aside by the Male Self’s action.  She then has the opportunity of exerting power, either independently or in conjunction with the High Self, by projecting Love from the heart chakra into the Male Self and the solar plexus chakra.  She will need to utilize her will and force to accomplish the task and, if she cares enough about the partnership with the Male Self, she will do so, pushing herself beyond limits that she had previously observed.  The Male Self, receiving the impact of the radiation of Love, may then realize how he is reacting in fear.  With that awareness, the Male Self may understand that he has chosen unwisely.  He may change his position, allowing Love to relax his grip upon the solar plexus chakra and giving the Female Self opportunity to enter and co-direct the energies of that chakra.

This example has many variations with each of the chakras and bodies of the human personality.  These dynamics are also affected by the karmic lessons that the Male and Female Selves are learning.  The High Self guides the entire process, providing those conditions most conducive to the learning of Basic Selves and Judge Selves.

Building Bridges to Judge Selves

When (Mental and Astral) Judge Selves remain in a state of isolation, fear and mistrust of all beings, they act as catalysts in challenging the Basic Selves.  When Basic Selves; respond from a position of Love, Light, wisdom, strength and compassion, the Judge Selves have diminished impact upon them.  Yet, because Judge Selves are often fearful of the Basic Selves, the Outer Self is required to intervene in establishing a bridge of friendship with the Judge Selves as a first step which leads ultimately to friendship between Judge Selves and Basic Selves.

Communication and Agreements Among Basic Selves

As the personality evolves, these dynamics play out in intricate patterns.  You, the Outer Self, can learn to discern these patterns, especially if you have consistent contact with your High Self, wherein you can ask questions and receive specific answers that illuminate your understanding of your subconscious dynamics.

With your assistance, your Subconscious Selves all learn much more rapidly.  You, the Outer Self, can assist them in encouraging them to face what they most wish to avoid by helping them communicate with each other when they would rather alienate, and by helping them achieve agreements for mutual support.

The richness of these dynamics requires an extended period of study involving a deeper understanding of daily events,  plumbing the motives and needs of each Subconscious Self.  In this way, the distractions and demons that have plagued humanity are overcome.  Order replaces chaos, growth replaces the despair of stagnation, and the Light of the Soul illuminates the personality.  Those who work in clearing glamours— distortions of the astral body—and illusions—distortions of the mental body— accelerate the growth process of your Subconscious Selves.

Fragmented Aspects of Basic Selves

If you find, for example, that your Male Self expresses in two fragments, you may investigate through dialogue what are the beliefs, fears, hopes and needs of the two fragments.  You may, with that understanding, encourage the two fragments—which may be outer-spacial in one aspect, and elemental in another—to relate more closely to each other.  Without your assistance (as an Outer Self), the fragmented aspects of the Male Self might well take a number of lifetimes to achieve unity, but with your assistance their unity may be achieved in a matter of months.  Such progress greatly accelerates the evolution of the personality and increases the benefit to the Planetary Being.

The Enlightened Ones, who care for all Life in the planet, need Soul Illuminated personalities to work with and through for the benefit of evolving Life forms in each of the planes of existence.

Vibratory Shift on Earth’s Physical Plane

At the present time, the physical plane substance of the planet is vibratorily stimulated by the Enlightened Ones to produce a significant shift in consciousness for humanity and many of the elemental beings inhabiting the physical plane.  The demands of this vibratory shift create additional stresses upon all Subconscious Selves, adding to their workload of maintaining balance in the bodies and chakras of the personality.  They also add to the requirements of maintaining interpersonal relationships and group activities.  Persons, who lack ability to assist in the integration of their Subconscious Minds, find themselves at a loss when times of planetary stress are induced.  You, who work diligently to assist your Subconscious Minds, may more easily cope with the stresses and remain productive when others fall by the wayside.

As a series of definite changes occur in the physical plane, in this and coming years, your Male and Female Selves will experience frequent challenges.  If you, as Outer Selves, are capable of assisting them, you will find your Light increasing.  If you are not willing or capable of assisting them, you will find yourself subjected to obscure stresses and tend to feel helpless.

You may benefit from the work of Self Integration inasmuch as you invest yourself in it.  We speak from a pragmatic viewpoint, seeking to assist as many persons as possible to develop the skills needed to prevail and rejoice in these challenging times.  Persons, who are able to accept and express the increasing abundance of help, succor and nourishment of Higher Consciousness, will lead truly fulfilling lives.  In order to accomplish at that level, a person needs to be willing, knowledgeable and skilled in managing their own subconscious needs.

We believe this supplies a basis from which to discuss and answer questions.  Do you have questions, or shall we get on our soap box again?

Questions and Answers

Q1: Moving toward Unification

CRAIG: I would like to know: are there certain common lessons or passages that we all go through, in terms of moving towards unification into an androgynous self, that could be described beyond just “cooperation” and “better communication?”  Are there certain specific common tasks or phases that we all go through?

Unification Stage 1: Mental Body

MONITOR:  As the Male and Female Selves unite energetically, their mental bodies unite inasmuch as they come to share common purposes and goals – common ideals.  Thus, they draw upon the energies of the causal plane (the level Soul operates from) to produce order in their mental bodies.  As they subscribe, voluntarily, to the same ideals and purposes, they gain ability to mentally collaborate in creating goals of mutual benefit.

The initial independence of Male and Female Selves leads them to formulate independent goals which tend to pull them in different directions.  In the mental body, that produces separated or compartmentalized thought forms.  It divides the mental circuitry, thus maintaining illusions in place which otherwise would be discovered and dispersed.

Common Ideals and Purposes

Male and Female Selves must therefore be united by common ideals and purposes.  The Outer Self may facilitate this process by asking the Basic Selves to describe their ideals and purposes and how they relate to each other.  Through mental examination, Male and Female Selves may be assisted to vitalize themselves with the same source of causal energy by choosing the same ideals and purposes.  Thus, the mental bodies of the two unify.

Unification Stage 2: Astral Bodies

When sufficient unity is achieved in the mental body, Male and Female Selves gain sufficient mental clarity to realize how their astral (emotional) bodies diverge with the expression of different emotions, desires, attitudes and expectations.

The next stage of unification involves the application of unified ideals and purposes to the astral lives of both Selves.  Here they react quite strongly.  Many habits gained in past lifetimes; must first be displayed in order to be recognized and thus countered or transformed.  Emotional transformation; takes place with the consistent application, by both Male and Female Selves, of their ideals and purposes as expressed in tangible goals and objectives.

Resolving discordant emotional patterns

As the astral body begins to unify, discordant pattern after discordant pattern emerges.  This process normally takes approximately 75-120 lifetimes to accomplish.  As emotions arise, desires arise, and also divergent attitudes and expectations.  All of these expressions of astral energy must be met, understood and transformed into a coherent state based upon the ideals and purposes held in common.

Unification and synthesis of emotional patterns

As the astral body unifies, separate or compartmentalized areas of astral activity merge and produce a synthesis that heightens the vibration of the entire astral body.  That process occurs in spurts punctuated by plateaus.  With each spurt of growth in the astral body, the etheric and physical bodies are affected, upsetting their homeostasis and at times creating not only stress, but illness.

Unification Stage 3: Harmony in Etheric and Physical Bodies

Thus the next stage of unification involves consistent application, by Male and Female Selves, of the harmony they have achieved on causal, mental and astral levels to the energetic expression of the etheric and physical bodies.  For this reason, much emphasis is placed upon etheric and physical healing, which removes conflicts of energies that have been imprinted in the etheric and physical bodies at earlier times.  This process often involves the clearing of what is sometimes termed “cellular memory,” bringing harmony where conflict has prevailed.  The entire process of healing the etheric and physical bodies involves simplification of vibratory forces in them.

Healing Discordant Vibrations

Many of the discordant vibrations in those bodies must first be expressed to gain the attention of the Basic Selves.  Once they understand that a discordant vibration exists in the physical and etheric bodies, they can work to heal it.  In the process of healing, they often are required to face their past actions, many of them in past lives.  Thus, they gradually bring about harmony in the etheric and physical bodies.

Stage 4 Unification: Soul Light for liberation from the physical body

When their efforts have blended on all of the lower bodies, they receive an infusion of Soul Light which draws them closer together, adding refinements to their blending.  In that stage of development, a person is often placed in temporary isolation from the demands of social concerns.  They undergo a period of inner transformation, initiated by their Soul and managed by their High Self and Teachers.

This leads them to sufficient refinement of forces in all of their lower bodies, that they may achieve the translation from physical to etheric form.  This process manifests the simplification of vibration of the physical body to the point where it no longer has need to exist.  Then, the physical body translates or, if you prefer, ascends into the etheric body.

We believe that this is an appropriate place to stop our description in answer to your question.  Have we addressed your question?

CRAIG: Yes.  Quite well.

Q2: Resolving a Death Wish

BARBARA: In working with some people, it seems that some aspects of themselves want to die or self-destruct, and when those aspects are really strong, it seems hard to reach them.  Would you comment on that?

Intense suffering of a basic (Male or Female) self

MONITOR: The aspects that wish to die are normally one of the Basic Selves who has been severely impacted by the Judge Selves.  In most instances, the Mental Judge Self has cruelly affected one of the Basic Selves, not out of intentional cruelty, but of its own blind need to achieve self-empowerment and temporary safety for itself.

The pain of the Basic Self becomes so intense and pervasive that it seeks to change the circumstance of the personality.  The Basic Self who views the situation in those terms is already disconnected from the High Self.  It is severely influenced by the illusions of separation and self-pity.  It is clouded in clusters of glamours stemming from those illusions, and thus its pain blots out any avenue of apparent escape.  In seeking to die, the Basic Self seeks a change which may provide escape from the pain.

Assisting Hurting Basic Self

In such circumstances, a person seeking to help needs to make significant impact on that hurting Basic Self.  This may be accomplished in a number of ways.  Prayer, especially that invoking the Golden Light of Grace, may be effectively used.

INVOCATION: “Send the Golden Light of Grace to my entire personality”

The Golden Light of Grace will tend to make an attacking Judge Self refrain from attack because its needs are met.  The Golden Light will also assist a Basic Self in pain by providing relief from pain.

The clearing of glamours and achievement of greater mental clarity  will help the afflicted Self actually hear the advice of a counselor, therapist or friend.  The hurting Basic Self needs to be encouraged to connect with Higher Consciousness, specifically with the High Self.  When they do so, they receive the most effective assistance available.

Hero’s Journey

Often the hurting Basic Self, who has gained some relief, still confronts the illusion of separation.  That Self may often believe that the help it seeks from Higher Consciousness exists on the other side of a chasm, a gap which it lacks the power to cross.  At times, when this confrontation occurs, that Basic Self may be assisted by another person, or Subconscious Self, in a process of making a journey into and across the imagined chasm.  That journey is often described as the “hero’s journey,” which leads to a confrontation with many fear-based glamours and ultimately with the illusion of separation.

With assistance in that process, which may be rendered through a process of therapy or counseling, the hurting Basic Self may be led to discover that it is empowered to contact the High Self, and that when that contact is made, it has immediate help administered.  After that achievement, further counseling may be given to assist that Basic Self in consolidating its spiritual contact in daily life.

Pain and suffering motivate the hero’s journey

The Basic Self who seeks escape from pain through suicide often seeks death of the pain, not realizing that it creates the pain.  Seen in a broad perspective of growth, the experience of pain and suffering motivates the search, the heroic journey which leads to the facing and overcoming of fears and other glamours, the recognition and dissolving of illusions, and the achievement of Spiritual Unity.  Have we addressed your question?

BARBARA:  Yes.

Q3: Human Relationships and Inner Dynamics

JULIE:  How do our significant relationships with other human beings relate to the development of our Basic Selves?  Do we sometimes attract children who reflect the qualities of our Basic Selves?  Also, fathers, mothers and spouses who reflect the Basic Selves within us?

As Within, So Without

MONITOR:  We suggest the principle of “As within, so without.”

When one Basic Self experiences difficulty in relating to the other, the High Self uses interpersonal relationships to introduce a person expressing similar qualities to the other Basic Self.  For example, a Male Self who has difficulty relating to what he regards as a dominating Female Self will be likely to experience the introduction of a dominating woman into the life of that personality.  The Male Self will be challenged in relating to that woman and may learn from that relationship how he seeks to dominate.  In this way he may overcome illusions which cause him to project his own qualities upon the Female Self.  As the Male Self learns to relate constructively with a powerful woman in an interpersonal relationship, he may then gain ability to relate to the Female Self.

Interpersonal relationships can accelerate growth of consciousness

Interpersonal relationships, most of the time, offer exact mirrors of intrapersonal relationships.  When a child is born into a family, the parents and other members of that family accurately reflect the characteristics and lessons of the Inner Selves of the child.  The child, in turn, brings exactly those characteristics and lessons that are needed to catalyze the growth of other family members.  These arrangements are worked out by the High Selves of each personality, often in great detail and precise timing of events.  Their care accelerates the growth of human beings.

Coherent Group Consciousness

In these times, when the peak of individualization has been achieved, the Spiritual Hierarchy and High Selves promote the development of coherent group consciousness.  This trend will offer opportunities to demonstrate to most persons, and Inner Selves, their ability to relate harmoniously with others in terms of shared ideals and purposes.

Parents and Children

A parent with children will normally experience in their children the qualities of their own Inner Selves.  Here, we must clarify that the qualities of interpersonal relationships reflect all of the Subconscious Selves, including Judge Selves as well as Basic Selves.

Through the choreography composed by the High Selves, interpersonal relationships provide a greater basis for evolution of the personality than social isolation.  As the Planetary Being continues through its present period of spiritual initiation, many pleasing and surprising developments will occur through ritualized, guided group activities.

Coherent Group Activity leads to healing

Much may be revealed through the consciousness of a relatively coherent group that will assist in the growth of its individual members.  Many of the subconscious dynamics that are suppressed or not understood within an individual may be revealed and healed in coherent group activity.  The fundamental qualities of courage, commitment, disclosure, compassion and altruism will be demonstrated increasingly in groups throughout the planet.

Now more than ever the Power of Love manifests

Many of you may wonder at our statement, having assumed that human nature is largely perverse and resistant to the expression of Love, yet we state for the record that the power of Love is now being manifested more completely through humanity than at any previous time of its existence.  The power of Love will not be denied, but will often be discovered in interpersonal activities where compassion, caring and altruism are demonstrated, especially in times of need.

Telepathy

The phenomenon of telepathy will expand to include surprisingly large numbers of people, and after initial shocks are resolved, telepathy will become a more important factor, both in intrapersonal relationships of Subconscious Selves and in interpersonal groups.  In many ways, this development will intensify interpersonal relationships.  The process is already underway, and many of you have already observed it.

The achievement of telepathy requires subconscious connection at the least, and superconscious connection at the most.  Both aspects of connection are being intensified, challenging the illusion of separation and the powerppower of maya (the illusory perception of the physical world that obscure the higher spiritual reality);.

Choice of Competition or Unification

As Male and Female Selves become more aware of each other, as telepathic connections are promoted throughout the planet, they will be forced to intensify their efforts.  If they express those efforts as alienation, conflict or competition, they will experience the results of those actions more rapidly and intensely than in previous times.  This will occur because the energy condition of the Planetary Being is being accelerated.

If Male and Female Selves use the increasingly transparent telepathic connection to advantage, they may more rapidly learn each other’s needs, take effective action to assist each other, and thus achieve energetic unification much more rapidly.

Exercise: Non-verbal, artistic expression of the Basic Selves

Let us speak, then, in conclusion.  We suggest an exercise for those who wish to improve the relationship of their Male and Female Selves.  We suggest a non-verbal exercise were each person may choose a medium of expression, ranging from drawing, painting, singing, dancing or playing.

First, the Outer Self may connect with the High Self, invoking the Golden Light of Grace for all aspects of the personality.  When a sense of relative harmony is achieved, the Outer Self may ask the High Self who should proceed first, the Male Self or the Female Self.  Taking the guidance given, the Outer Self should then invite the first Basic Self to express itself through the medium that it chooses.

Ask that Basic Self to express “what it most desires from the other Basic Self.”  When the first Self has expressed, the Outer Self may invite the other Basic Self to express, in the medium of its choice, the same desire, “what it most desires from the other Basic Self.”

When both expressions have occurred, the Outer Self may picture the Male and Female Selves together, in a discussion where each Basic Self is invited to comment on what the other has expressed.  The Outer Self may assist the Basic Selves to understand what their counterpart desires of them.  Some emotional reactions may arise, yet, in a spirit of open discussion, understanding may be achieved.  The Outer Self may conclude the exercise by thanking all Selves who participated.

The exercise will assist in improving the relationship between the Male and Female Selves.  It is not guaranteed to produce harmony but will improve the Basic Selves’ understanding of each other.  Other exercises may be used from that point on, to achieve actual harmony.

Conclusion

We appreciate the questions and the explorations conducted by many of you in working with your Inner Selves.  We encourage you to ask your Male and Female Selves to consult regularly with the High Self.  If they can do that independently, you may encourage them to consult with the High Self together in addressing their questions and advising them concerning their plans.

Arising to spiritual mastery

The dynamics of Basic Selves form a platform which raises the personality to the heights of Spiritual Mastery.  Yet the Basic Selves, alone, are only part of the dynamics.  The Judge Selves also need to be recognized and befriended.  Their transformation from negative to positive contributions gives definitive impetus to the advancement of Basic Selves and the entire personality.  Thus, we look forward to our next discussion concerning the Mental Judge Self.

We invite you to dialogue as much as possible with your Subconscious Selves, learning their needs and how you may assist them in meeting their needs.  We encourage you to check your discoveries with your High Self.  With these steps, you rise in evolution.  Even though it takes hard work, you may realize the benefits of Self Integration and Soul Illumination.  We thank each one for participating.  We bless each one, and we leave you now